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Woes of a "Tuition Teacher"

People envy tuition teachers because they have the flexibility of time to fix their own schedule and decide to have a session at a particular time slot or not. Tuition teachers get to wake up late in the morning because while the students are at school, there isn't too much for tuition teachers to work on. Many think that tuition teachers should be able to earn a lot in a month. I don't deny all these can be true and many become attracted to this line because they feel that grass is greener on the other side.

While at the same time, these are some woes of being a Tuition Teacher, which many a times I often HATE being called one. I would dearly like being called by my name, "Cheryl", not "Cher", not "teacher", not "Ms. Tham". I'm good also with "teacher Cheryl", that's all. I struggled with my occupation for a period of time after coming out from the status of being a "Learning Centre Trainer". Many a times, when forms call for us to write our occupation, sometimes I'd put "Tutor", or else "Professional Educator", or else "Specialised Educator", or else "Coach". Who am I? What do I want? That's something I'd need to figure out. I refuse being called a "Tuition Teacher" because tutors simply TEACH, with little bonding with their students. I don't quite like to teach actually but I like to share the knowledge. Many think it is similar but it isn't. Teaching is just feeding the students with facts but sharing the knowledge allows discovery. I love it when students go, "OH! That's how it works!" or else I love it when students come over and start ranting about their week, shed some sweat over their awful week and start feeling all the good feelings all over again. I know that doesn't sound like me teaching Math but it is a place students find comfortable being in, and found someone comfortable sharing a part of their life with. That's about Coaching. Guiding students out of their stress and leading them to a situation of being able to take control of, gives them the power to decide what they would want in their lives. This is something tuition teachers don't work on. But here goes what makes an educator upset:

1) Students call 30min-1h before tuition time and asks to postpone tuition despite reminders given.
2) Parents of students do not pay for the tuition sessions in time and having the need to chase them for the fees. (which I hate to do because it's dealing with money which tends to become sensitive)
3) After making a mistake, the student learns from it, yet makes the same mistake again the next week. (Student doesn't reinforce what is learnt over the week)
4) After turning up at the house and calling the student, the student remembers that he or she has forgotten to let me know they had to stay back in school.

Surely more to come and it takes time and effort to deal with them one by one. Rules have to be set, surely, and sometimes, I can't be too nice. That's a lesson I need to learn.

Something to cheer me up after all: I love it when student comes for a session at the beginning telling me that he or she has totally NO idea what the teacher went through over the whole week as he or she does not understand what is taught. And I could run through everything within one session to make the student feel smart about themselves. Totally a motivation booster not just for the student but also for me. I'm happy to be able to see the student gain confidence and understanding in the topics. I love putting this back to their daily lives about how when they meet challenges, set a realistic goal, take action and work towards it. In Math, it's the same. Find out what's the goal (what the question is asking for), ask yourself how you want to get to the answer and solve the mystery bit by bit towards the goal.

It's funny how I have graduated from Biomedical Science, have decided to educate the young in Math. Math isn't my speciality but it made it my speciality when Math is an easy tool to boost self-esteem and confidence. This is what I get intrigued with.

127 more days.. to the day..

The day is drawing near. I'm excited for our day. Here's a song I chanced upon with awesome lyrics:

Beautiful in White by Westlife

Not sure if you know this
But when we first met I got so nervous
I couldn't speak In that very moment
I found the one and

My life had found its missing piece
So as long as I live I love you
Will have and hold you
You look so beautiful in white
And from now to my very last breath
This day I'll cherish
You look so beautiful in white Tonight

What we have is timeless
My love is endless
And with this ring
I Say to the world
You're my every reason you're all that I believe in
With all my heart I mean every word
So as long as I live I love you
Will have and hold you

You look so beautiful in white
And from now to my very last breath
This day I'll cherish
You look so beautiful in white Tonight
oooh oh You look so beautiful in white
So beautiful in white Tonight

And if a daughters what our future holds
I hope she has your eyes
Finds love like you and I did Yeah,
I wish she falls in love and I will let her go
I'll walk her down the aisle
She'll look so beautiful in white

You look so beautiful in white
So as long as I live I love you
Will have and hold you
You look so beautiful in white
And from now to my very last breath
This day I'll cherish
You look so beautiful in white Tonight
You look so beautiful in white Tonight


Today, I thought a lot about what Pastor Prince mentioned about how it is alright to agree that you are wrong.

Question posted: Why do people always begin to feel defensive when someone points out the mistakes he/she made that he or she wants to quickly find a reason/excuse to justify their actions? This often leads to quarrels.

People do not like their weaknesses being exposed to other people because we have learnt that being right/correct makes us closer to perfection. But the fact is we are not perfect! Everything of us is imperfect, with sins but because of Jesus, we are made perfect. And only when we begin to focus on Jesus and see His obedience, not ours, we begin to accept ourselves and allow ourselves to make mistakes. So when people point out your mistakes, accept them and tell them you are guilty of it.

To round these thoughts up, I served in Rock Kids after 1st service and a P3 girl asked me, "Teacher Cheryl, when people say practice makes perfect and there is nothing ever perfect, what is the point of practising?" Indeed nothing is ever perfect. And it is surely a thought-provoking question that instant. What am I going to say to that girl? Surely that phrase is wrongly used by many. "Practice makes permanent" is a better deal than "Practice makes perfect". If no one ever practises, how could one become better? This was a question I posted back to the girl. At least getting better results from the previous beats meeting perfections. That's why some parents should begin to see this light of not pressurizing their kids for 100/100 but celebrating every success their kid goes through with each improvement made from the previous.

Today, I saw a girl got hit by a taxi. She flew and landed 2m away from the taxi. I rushed over to see to her and realized she had nose bleed, she could walk and thank the Lord, she wasn't too seriously injured at that moment. I called the ambulance to pick her so that she could go for a full-body check-up. At that point, there was a doctor present to help administer first aid. This victim made a mistake to cross when there was traffic. She did not see the taxi approaching and got hit. She could easily push the blame, but when told it's a lesson learnt, she nodded and accepted it. People make mistakes, it's ok, as long as they learn.

In Love... With Daddy God..

This closeness with Daddy God surely beats many other relationships. The amount of love He has for me makes me feel so treasured, favoured. This is the feeling I have missed over the many years of being more distant than I am now with Daddy God. Went for Fearless camp and had an awesome time, not only spent with the kids, but even more with Daddy God.

It's so amazing to see Him through many kids. It's so nice when my room kids tell me how they can be afraid staying in hotel rooms because it may not be very clean and they said they brought anointing oil so would like to place at the corner of the rooms. When the kids don't win the games, they say it's ok, and thank their opponents. It's nice to see their joy through the days and to see that they are so blessed! It was good to see when they moved ahead to seek prayer to get the gift of tongues. Ministry time was good, it made me tear because I saw Him so close to all of us, smiling down at us.

I'm blessed, totally!

God moments and God's works

I believe Daddy God placed me there at the right time at the right place for things to happen. I was serving in Rock Kidz today and had P2 turning P3 kids joining us in Alive today for the first time while the P3 kids turn P4. I begun learning what the media IC does and would soon become a "musicman" we call in AKLTG. When fringe activities begun, I was in charge of library which is very much NOT ME to be hanging out at the library side which any was an assigned role, I went to help out with writing the kids names on the Congratulations card we give to kids when the raise their hands to accept Jesus Christ in their lives (altar call). Thereafter, I saw a girl sitting on her own and decided to join her in a conversation and got to know her a lot more. We chatted non-stop as we both shared our experiences but very much of me listening to her needs and bringing her back to Jesus in times of need. Then she said to me, "You know, I have not received Jesus into my heart and I would like to." And I asked, "Oh, why did you not raise your hands during the altar call?" And she replied, "I was too shy." I then asked if she would like to accept Jesus into her life and she replied immediately with a nod and with great conviction. That moment was so awesome. It was totally a God moment when a kid does that. The response was so pure, so innocent, so wonderful!

I then held her hands and prayed for her and with her to accept Jesus into her life. I went to take the Congratulations card. How awesome are these lives when they begin to see the miracles God has placed for them and done within them. God's just so wonderful to be working in everyone's lives at the same time and making miracles happen. And I'm glad to be used, to be chosen to do God's work.

I believe so strongly in resting to allow Daddy God to work and bring forth miracles. Something big in my life is my career change this year which I decided to make changes to of which I have totally submitted to Him. I remembered how I was afraid not being able to sustain my monthly expenses and lifestyle (not that I use much) with the lack of students but I remember having to rest in Him and He will do the works. He brings no lack but abundance. Submitted all my worries to Him, and he multiplied my needs by many folds! This time, as the new year approaches, I'm moving into doing my tuition at my place. Definitely a huge worry when having to convert my students to get them to come to my place to run private group sessions, I knew I would be putting myself in a vulnerable position as travelling becomes their worry. I made this decision to convert because I knew I was going to do this in the long run and I wanted a win-win situation with my students, to be able to teach them and provide my time with them in a more flexible manner unlike private tuition or tuition centres. Having to submit this worry was a challenge because I prayed and I submitted, the worry returns but gladly, the worry begun to diminish and I begun learning to sit back and simply allow Daddy God to run my work for me. No way were advertisements coming up and I just relied on word-of-mouth. I've begun seeing queries coming in more frequently lately and I know, I need not worry because my wonderful Lord has done it for me and is doing it for me. I'm glad I'm not seeing the monetary aspect of it because I believe, I can allow prosperity to become a servant, but not a master and a foothold in my life. Daddy God is my master and He brings forth all the gifts into my life, and makes things happen for me. Believe, trust and have faith, be patient and He'd bring in the goodness. I'm thankful!
A pact I made with myself when I decided to leave my job for what I felt was a very daring decision is making good process especially that I have been in my comfort zone over the many years ago since I stepped into this company. When people know of my exit, they congratulate me. And I'm happy for myself because, I decided to take the courage to step out and move on.

I believe partly was because of knowing that in 2013, things are going to be different for me. And if I do not take this opportunity to do what I want to do in 2012, it's gonna be tougher for me in the years to come when my priorities begin to change. And that pact I made was a wonderful thing I did for myself. Taking it off my previous posts:

1) Diving trip in June (Checked)
2) Genting holiday with family (good time for myself) in April (Checked)
3) Attend guitar classes (currently doing so) (Checked)
4) Join Rock Kidz Ministry (submitted interest, interview to be arranged) (Checked)
5) Join YEP end of the year in Dec (to look into in June/July) (Checked)
6) Bring dogs out to someone special once a month (oops!)
7) Exercise thrice a week (getting there)
8) Capture photos of every step of my wedding preparations (oops... occasionally did so)
9) More to come...

and I'm going to be adding on here:

9) Advanced Open Water Dive Certification (Checked) -- Done in July 2012
10) Personal Holiday to Hong Kong in June (checked)
11) YEP Project to Cebu in Dec
12) Holiday plans with Gerald to Vietnam (so called backpacking) (Checked)
13) Engagement Encounter (Marriage Preparation Course) in Oct
14) Choosing of gown in Oct
15) Wedding Photoshoot in Nov
16) Researching for Photographer, Videographer, Cinematography etc.
17) My business plans to come up for end-year to next year with tuition to be held at my home
18) ....

3/4 of the year is here and it's been an awesome year. I've grown so much in this year with many valuable experiences to share. I love this year the most out of the many years because I have finally done things I have always wanted to do. Next year is gonna be an awesome one too with wedding coming up. And when wedding comes, many more things are going to happen. That includes our house and our future plans. I am very excited to move into the phase, and most importantly, to enjoy every single phase with him.

We once had a good heart-to-heart chat about how fortunate we both felt about our own lives. There may be occasional dramas to test us but when we look at our lives as a whole, much is given to us just like a wonderful present. Everything just fall into place, for us to simply enjoy what we have before us. I'm thankful. That's why even more so, I must enjoy every single bit of my life.

VIA Survey of Character Strengths

I went to check this out on http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/questionnaires.aspx

Your Top Strength
Modesty and humility
You do not seek the spotlight, preferring to let your accomplishments speak for themselves. You do not regard yourself as special, and others recognize and value your modesty.

Your Second Strength
Forgiveness and mercy
You forgive those who have done you wrong. You always give people a second chance. Your guiding principle is mercy and not revenge.

Your Third Strength
Hope, optimism, and future-mindedness
You expect the best in the future, and you work to achieve it. You believe that the future is something that you can control.

Your Fourth Strength
You excel at the tasks of leadership: encouraging a group to get things done and preserving harmony within the group by making everyone feel included. You do a good job organizing activities and seeing that they happen.

Your Fifth Strength
Spirituality, sense of purpose, and faith
You have strong and coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of the universe. You know where you fit in the larger scheme. Your beliefs shape your actions and are a source of comfort to you.
I awoke late but i still manage to capture his message of God. It was amazingly good. Many a times we tend to put our worries, our doubts, our burden, and everything on our shoulders, it gets all too heavy for us to carry. But when we learn to take ourselves OUT of the equation, and take a look at all these, sometimes, it still stands, other times it all falls apart. And that only meant it has to fall. We need to put ourselves ABOVE all of those things and allow them to be at the bottom of our feet, to conquer it all and allow God to handle all of those.

I know at the beginning of this year, I had held on to too much of my fear, doubts, uncertainties, unhappy feelings that I decided I just had to let all of those fall and allow everything else to flow. If I did not allow all of that to collapse, many other awesome happenings wouldn't have happened. I am loving my everyday now with the ease of mind, the joy of each day and a good everyday.

I had a whole long list of things I wanted to do this whole year. I am still searching for more, and many things are surely coming my way... awesome are the days ahead not because of the choice I made for myself but because of what the Lord has done for me. He made everything whole for me.

Updates of our plans

Saturday was an awesome day of spending time with each other and we both felt it was good that we both managed to spend a good Saturday doing so many things unlike before. We had good talks, gossiped, talked non-stop and spent awesome time together. We both went to Courts in AMK to look for lappy, went upstairs to look at their furniture and planned for how ours would be like. I then suggested for Bishan so that I could look for iMac and decide if I should get one. Most probably I would. We walked around and walked pass Citigems. It then came across my mind of having to buy our wedding bands in future. Then we decided to walk in just to TAKE A LOOK. It turned out we both had inclination towards a pair of rings we both liked and we decided to get it straight away. I was initially afraid it would be too soon and after all, we do have a lot of time to choose, but he said that since we see something we like, we should just get it. So, we got it!!!! It's funny how we have not even confirmed our wedding places and all and we have already bought the bands. wooo...

Anyway, took mum and dad to Keppel Club's Peony Jade and they are good with it. It has allayed the fears mum has because she went to Clark Quay's before and had a bad experience with the service there. But well, glad that things are fine. =) We should be placing a booking soon! Woohoo!! That goes the same for our church too!! =) I'm so excited for our plans ahead TOGETHER!

Boy-Girl Relationships

When I looked into the eyes of some of my Secondary 4s who have told me of their relationships, I see so much glow in their eyes of how influenced they are in their relationships, positively. It's just so amazing how love caught their hearts and brought them to a whole new realm of which they are caught in. It reminded me so much of my growing days in Secondary school of how emotional I could be in setting my eyes on guys and ponder on the possible outcome of each, despite the relationship I was faithfully in.

When I bladed last night with a great friend, I remembered the past we both used to be in and the cat calls our friends used to make because people thought something could work out. I wouldn't have known if there were any possibilities because I was partially blinded during those periods having also to handle the downs of the relationship I was in. But I wonder... how different would it have been.

Well, the years have passed and all of us have moved on. Looking at where I am now with G, I couldn't ask for more when I know, he is not just all I need, he is worthy of my future. He is the person for the past 8 years who made me yearn for the weekends even more so because I could spend good quality time with him. I love listening to his rants each week on how tough work had gone, how people manage certain things, how disgusting some people could be and even more so how he could make a difference to many people's lives. I love being that companion of his who could complement his every self. I just love the connection we both have of each other..